#grief -

[malorisaurus]

He talked about this in an interview with Esmé Weijun Wang for The Believer Mag, and truly it is even better in this format. We don’t talk to kids about grief, and we should.

Andrew Garfield talks to Elmo about grief and the passing of his mother

[gentleaffirmations]

As we head into the holiday season, I'm thinking about everyone who finds these times especially difficult.

I hope that your holidays are as peaceful as they can be. I hope that you find moments of laughter and joy.

For everyone who experiences loneliness or grief during the holidays, I hope that you find comfort where you can. Please take good care of yourself.

You are loved.

[doubledaybooks]

“It feels bad to be loved this much when you don't think you deserve it.” -Jessica Johns, BAD CREE

[thepeacefulgarden]

Also, if you only have 30%, and you give 30%, you didn't give 30%. You gave 100%. You did your best. Your best is going to look different each day, and even from moment to moment within that day. And some days really are just about making it to the next one. That counts, too. If all you did today was breathe, you did enough.

[song-for-an-unborn-sun]

Grief, Theodor Kittelson

[cheeseybeanallalong]

𝙸 𝚑𝚊𝚍 𝚊𝚕𝚠𝚊𝚢𝚜 𝚔𝚗𝚘𝚠𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚛𝚘𝚊𝚍 𝚠𝚊𝚜 𝚌𝚛𝚞𝚎𝚕 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚠𝚒𝚕𝚍, 𝙸 𝚋𝚞𝚛𝚢 𝚖𝚢 𝚘𝚠𝚗 𝚑𝚎𝚊𝚛𝚝 𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚎 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚖𝚢 𝚌𝚑𝚒𝚕𝚍. 𝙸𝚏 𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚋𝚎 𝚐𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚠𝚎 𝚌𝚊𝚛𝚛𝚢 𝚘𝚗, 𝚋𝚞𝚝 𝚎𝚟𝚎𝚛𝚢 𝚖𝚒𝚕𝚎 𝙸 𝚐𝚘, 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚎𝚟𝚎𝚛𝚢 𝚋𝚎𝚗𝚍 𝚋𝚎𝚢𝚘𝚗𝚍 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚎𝚗𝚍, 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚖𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛 𝚕𝚘𝚟𝚎𝚜 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚜𝚘.

[slondile]

Say something my love you're losing me, and I fear this time it's for good.

[adrowningpoet]

sometimes the memories overwhelm the mind.. and we relive the haunting nature of what was and could never be again.

ENDGAME (2019) dir • russo bros

[prolifeproliberty]

Prayer Request

A friend of mine and her family could really use your prayers right now. Her mother has been in hospice for some time (cancer) and was expected to pass sometime soon. My friend and her sister went to go spend time with their mom, and while they were there their dad suddenly died from a heart attack.

Please pray for comfort in the Gospel amidst their grief, clarity/wisdom as they sort through the logistics and financial considerations, and peace for my friend’s mother in her final days.

[heartofmuse]

To surrender to grief like we surrender to love. Life is endless cycles of this it seems. Humility and acceptance are taught to us over and over again by things we can't control, by things that level us, a tearing down, a death, a deconstruction of self.

e.v.e.

[whumpypepsigal]

Landman (2024) s01e02: An injured Cooper coming around after the devastating oil well explosion that consumes the lives of everyone in Cooper’s crew, leaving him the only survivor. He hauls himself over to the van to call the disaster in, looking shocked and traumatized.

[soundlessl-y]

ID: I take out my throat / but the grief remains

Pretty Tripwire, Alessandra Lynch

[ourhomealien]

Don't gatekeep feelings, please.

TLDR

I'm autistic and so I have a unique vocabulary, so bare with me please.

Hermitcraft to me is a community for all ages, that's what I expect of it. In the same way a child deserves and expects to be able to trust and learn from their parents without abuse or them being literal criminals. People are as bad as they want to be, and you can 100% grieve your expectations of them. Disappointment can hurt anyone. In the same way you invest your feelings into pets knowing they will die, and then grieving when they're gone, you can invest feelings and expectations into people you know about and that isn't childish or naive, it's human. Hermitcraft is in no way culpable for an individual's actions. The amount of distress caused by this VC's actions is widespread and not limited, in the same way an earthquake has aftershocks.

I'm genuinely grieving over iskall, The character and the community they built and the stims and autistic scripts I've built into myself because of them. I was shocked on Saturday, but at the same time, after reading that first line it didn't make sense to be any other hermit (I did not in any way predict this) at the time of reading nothing was confirmed so I felt that, innocent until proven guilty, was the way to go. My heart sank, I felt sick and I wanted to cry, I was on my way home from a long day at work and it was the first day of my hormone cycle at it's worst. The first thoughts I had were, 'no no please, it's not true, it's true, maybe it's the bullies again and he can't cope anymore'. Then the hermits started acting and I thought maybe he doesn't want to be affiliated anymore. But that didn't 100% add up. <33 to the good hermits for being amazing.

In my experience being autistic means 75% of my existence is made up of scripts I've adopted and will continue to adopt, from other people around me locally like my family, from movies, shows, and books growing up, to everything I've consumed information wise, this includes so many people, some that at one time were my hyperfixation, these scripts can be unlearnt, and I have another script that helps ('we don't do that here') but it's still a process and It's stressful and unpleasant.

VC was one of the only people I've subscribed to on twitch, I didn't even watch his live stream (they were way too stressful for me, the pay to win quality of his streams was really frustrating) I just subbed to support him. At least to me he had a 'victim' persona especially when it came to the other hermits and their success in comparison, and this translated to me the need to support him more. (He was a hermit for crying out loud, he was fine, I tell myself now), then I read the truth and the pay to win made sense because he Was showing favouritism, after reading K's statement before I was finished I knew M would be involved too and I just felt incredibly sad and heartbroken for them, no one deserves to be treated like that, and people except a certain level of human decency. I'm sorry that this happens and I'm so sad that it has.

He made me feel Grian was a bad sport and that Grian was wrong to be in videos with his friends because he was more popular, that Grian couldn't be sincere in his joy 'because he was always stealing the limelight' (I was 15 at the time and irl was tough and I had bigger problems going on, I loved C! Grian a lot) and didn't trust anyone, so I started to dislike CC! Grian a lot. (Again young n Major trust issues); I like Grian again now but felt uneasy for a long while.

VC always pops at the end of his videos when he says bye and I always watched to the end just because of it, and at a certain point I started associating popping with saying 'I love you' I did it to my family and it's been a part of my autistic script since late 2018. Others include (Hallo, Omega, of doom)

Iskall's Minecraft character is canonically non-binary/agender and in fanworks they use they/them pronouns and as someone who's a fan of mcyt, Minecraft and is gender q, that was a big deal for me to be canonically represented. They also inspired me to write incredibly niche and rare minecraft lore and head canon's for them (them being a villager/player hybrid); iskall's character is a separate entity but the association is horrifying now and that is extremely disappointing, it was the same with William Gold.

VC has made fun of people's differences and difficulties and has been generally rude at times under the guise of humour. He has laughed at people's trust in the creepest way, that even though I liked him I was scared and put off for days, I was so genuinely angry at him, because I felt humiliated. He knew who he was and laughed at our trust in him. That hurts and angers me even more now.

[remindingpersephone]

"To keep memories of loved ones alive"

[thepeacefulgarden]

[mokomakin-lapamato]

I'm getting so emotional again. Seeing Zayn's tribute to Liam last night and the song he chose to play during it. Someone commented that the lyrics of Stardust describe Liam well and I agree.

It makes me cry to think Zayn picked that song but he couldn't sing it, just played it for Liam. Watching the videos where you can hear fans just sobbing... Zayn probably did the same backstage.

Then I see he liked the edit of playing one last gig as One Direction. Made me a bit mad to be honest. It's too late now... But then I remembered that he's grieving like all of us and he knew Liam better than us, who am I to judge.

Made me think of that time Liam answered a similar question during one of their gigs and said he'd spend time with his family and the 1D lads. Zayn went and hugged him after that. Yeah...

Then I saw a picture in which you can see how puffy Zayn's eyes were. It hit me again how difficult this must be for him. How proud of him I am for doing it anyway. He may not have a choice to postpone more but nevertheless, it's admirable.

I will continue to pray for him. I know many people don't like religion but it's how I cope. Praying is how I wish well for others.

Hugs to you op and anon and everyone who misses Liam ❤️

Zayn is gonna make me cry man😭

https://x.com/ZJMCRAVE/status/1860686333775151484?t=tcXfSqh3k5LywOmkiATNKQ&s=19

Hi anon, gosh is heartbreaking.

x x

What I would give to go back in time, I keep saying this but they deserved to grow old together, is devastating this reality. Thank you for letting me know anon.

I hope you have a lovely day/afternoon/night. Sending you a big hug.